Why This Woman Froze Her Eggs at Age 39

Easter eggs/Flickr.com

Easter eggs/Flickr.com

The pros and cons of egg freezing have topped the headlines since Apple and Facebook announced last month their intentions to offer the procedure as a health plan benefit. While some applauded the move for allowing women to take charge of Mother Nature, others said the announcement signaled that these companies want women to spend their childbearing years slaving away in the office instead of starting families. But the debate over egg freezing ignores how deeply personal the decision is, making it unlikely to be influenced by external factors alone. To shed light on why some women make this choice, I spoke with a Los Angeles-area acquaintance I’ll call “Meg” about what prompted her to freeze her eggs as she approached 40. Continue reading

Five Classic Films to Watch This Halloween

The Birds marquee at The Alex Theatre in Glendale. Photo by Anthony Nittle

“The Birds” featured in 2012 on The Alex Theatre marquee in Glendale, Calif.
Photo by Anthony Nittle

Last Halloween I talked my husband into watching “Carrie,” and he still hasn’t forgiven me. Watching a blood-drenched teen use her telekinetic powers to exact revenge on the classmates who bullied her wasn’t Anthony’s idea of a good film.

“But it’s a classic,” I whined when he complained about the movie. For his tastes, the 1976 horror film wasn’t classic enough. While he can view gritty crime dramas without as much as flinching, contemporary horror flicks just aren’t his thing.

With films about misfit teens with paranormal powers and knife-wielding psychos in masks, the 1970s ushered in horror films as we know them today. But during the three decades that preceded the disco era, audiences had a very different idea of what constituted a scary movie. Although a glut of B-movies debuted in the mid-20th century, the films that generated the most buzz then were equal parts suspenseful and psychological. These thrillers managed to leave viewers on edge with little to no gore. So if you’re like Anthony and want some cinematic suspense on Halloween without a bunch of blood and guts, check out this list of classics that debuted during the 1940s, ’50s and ’60s. First up “Gaslight.”

How Preschool Has Changed in 30 Years: A Teacher Talks

Preschool Mural Photo by Luis Vidal/Flickr.com

Preschool Mural
Photo by Luis Vidal/Flickr.com

To say that preschool has changed since my mother, Abby Vance, began teaching tots 32 years ago would be an understatement. In 1982, she’d never met a vegan child, most mothers preferred formula to breast milk and preschools didn’t offer cultural enrichment courses.

All in all, they provided no fodder whatsoever for comedy writers such as Jason Shapiro. His Twitter feed of the fictitious Los Feliz Day Care lampoons 21st century preschools where Meatless Mondays are every day; superhero costumes are forbidden, as children should be “heroic through social action;” and spiders aren’t squashed but “euthanized.”

Shapiro is far from the only one to notice this sea change in preschool culture. In her 2011 short story collection You Are Here, author Danzy Senna takes aim at an exclusive preschool where the annual fees costs more than state college tuition and only “Google-worthy” families need apply.

So, when did the laidback day cares of the ’80s turn into the hyper competitive juggernauts of today? I recently spoke with my preschool teacher mother about the trends she’s seen over the years in the Chicago area and her tips on how parents can help their kids succeed during the pre-K years. Here’s what she had to say: Continue reading

Why Raven-Symone Should Own Being African American & Gay

Labels Allison McDonald/Flickr.com

Allison McDonald/Flickr.com

Oprah knew this would happen. When the chat queen recently sat down with Raven-Symone, she predicted the ex-Cosby kid would set the Internet ablaze for quipping, “I’m tired of being labeled. I’m an American. I’m not an African American; I’m an American.”
Reportedly in a longtime relationship with model AzMarie Livingston, Raven only added fuel to the fire by remarking, “I don’t want to be labeled ‘gay.’ I want to be labeled ‘a human who loves humans.’”

In a single interview, the “That’s So Raven” star managed to alienate herself from not just one but two marginalized groups. As Winfrey anticipated, the public wasted no time taking the actress to task for attempting to shirk labels with which multitudes of Americans identify. Continue reading

Five Fashions That Never Go Out of Style

Designer Diane Von Furstenberg on the cover of Newsweek in 1976.

Designer Diane Von Furstenberg on the cover of Newsweek in 1976.

Chunky Oxfords. Fringed tops. Single statement earrings.

These trends popped up throughout Fashion Month in September, so get used to seeing them on the streets for the next year. But if you indulge in these trends, know that there’s no guarantee they’ll be in vogue two years from now.

Want to avoid planning your wardrobe around styles that are all the rage one year and anathema the next? Then consider adding a handful of fashion staples to your closet. Like the little black dress, the styles on the next five pages haven’t gone out of style in years. Scroll down to the bottom of this page and click on the numbers below to view these fashion staples. Or Click Here